Thursday, April 4, 2013

Abil Fikri & Fauziah - True Love Till the End

It was a heart-wrenching love story. About how much a husband loved his wife so much that he quit his job to take care of his wife who was bedridden and in a vegetative state after a severe asthma attack. They were only married for two years, on March 13th 2009, before that tragic day – June 22nd 2011.

True Love, no doubt, between a man named Abil Fikri and a woman named Fauziah Muhamad. 

 
*picture taken from Abil's blog

And now, after nearly two years, she passed away at 9:50am on April 2nd, 2013.


*picture taken from Sinar Harian

I cried reading the letters he wrote to Fauziah thru his blog.  This blog was created by Abil for his wife, hoping that one day she would wake up and read what had happened during her coma days.

The day would never come since Allah swt has better plans for her.

May Allah bless her soul, forgive her of her sins, make her grave a garden and grant her the highest level of paradise. Amiinn. 

This is from Sinar Harian :(

"Pergilah Gee. Pergilah! Walau selepas ini abang tidak lagi dapat mendengar suara rengekmu, tidak lagi dapat menyapu air matamu, namun abang reda. 

"Pergilah! Abang yakin, di sana DIA menyediakan tempat lebih baik untukmu. Di sana, akan hilang segala sakit menyerang. Akan lenyap segala derita yang sayang tanggung selama ini." 

Dalam kesayuan, Abil Fikri Ahmad, 44, masih murah dengan senyuman. Namun, tangis di hatinya, hanya dia saja yang tahu. 

Pemergian isteri tercinta, Fauziah Muhamad, 39, kira-kira jam 9.50 pagi semalam, pasti menjerut tangkai hatinya. 

Fauziah atau lebih mesra dipanggil Gee, menderita penyakit saraf sejak hampir dua tahun lalu. Bermula dengan serangan lelah, Gee kemudian menderita lumpuh. 

"Gee tidak menunjukkan sebarang perubahan. Cuma sejak kebelakangan ini, keadaannya tenang berbanding biasa. Tidur malamnya sangat lena. 

"Malam tadi pun (kelmarin), saya meneman Gee hingga jam 2 pagi. Seperti biasa, saya duduk di sisinya. Melihat matanya, bibirnya segenap wajahnya. Saya tidak pernah rasa puas merenung Gee. Dan selepas ini, tidak lagi wajah itu untuk saya tatap..." 

Suara Abil seolah tersekat. Dadanya sebak. 

“Pagi tadi (semalam) selepas solat Subuh, saya curi masa untuk tidur sebelum bangun semula bagi dia minum susu. Ketika sedang bancuh susu di tepi katil, Gee tiba-tiba menarik nafas dengan kuat. Dua kali... 

"Dia pergi dengan tenang. Wajahnya juga sangat tenang dan bersih. Gee memang isteri yang baik," nada suara Abil semakin hiba. Memanglah berat mata kita melihat kesedihan ditanggung Abil. Namun, berat lagi hatinya menanggung kesedihan atas kehilangan isteri tercinta. 

"ALLAH pinjamkan Gee kepada saya hanya sementara ketika dia sihat dan sakit. Sekarang ALLAH ambil dia kembali. Walau sekasih mana pun saya pada Gee, ALLAH lebih menyayangi dia. Saya reda!" 

Menurut Abil, sejak hujung Januari lalu kesihatan isterinya tidak lagi menentu. Berat badannya semakin menyusut. Mulutnya pula tidak lagi dapat ditutup. 

Malah katanya, arwah tidak lagi menunjukkan sebarang tindak balas ketika diusik berbanding biasa. 

"Saya melihat perubahannya. Semakin hari semakin lemah. “Sebelum ini jika saya usik tapak kaki Gee, dia akan bertindak balas. Tapi sejak akhir-akhir ini tiada lagi. 

“Dia pun tidak lagi marah-marah atau merengek. Apa yang saya nampak keadaannya sangat tenang dan dia akan buka mata setiap kali saya berada di dalam bilik,” katanya. 

Selain itu katanya, sebelum ini, menerusi laman blognya, dia juga turut meminta rakan-rakan dan pembaca agar sama-sama mendoakan keadaan kesihatan isterinya yang semakin tidak menentu. 

Namun ajal dan maut di tangan TUHAN. Isteri tersayang yang dijaga penuh perhatian akhirnya pergi buat selama-lamanya. 

“Ketika dia sihat saya pernah tanya adakah dia berpuas hati saya menjadi suaminya dan dia cakap dia bersyukur. “Tapi sekarang saya hanya dapat tanya diri sendiri, adakah saya telah menjaga isteri saya dengan baik ketika dia sakit dan menjalankan tanggungjawab dan ujian daripada ALLAH ini dengan sempurna,” katanya. 

Ketika ditanya tentang perancangannya selepas ini, kata Abil, dia tiada perancangan khusus namun berhasrat menjadi pakar motivasi bagi berkongsi pengalaman tentang alam rumah tangga. 

Sementara itu, rumah Abil tidak putus-putus dikunjungi orang ramai termasuk Raja Datin Seri Salbiah Nujumuddin dan pemimpin setempat. 

Jenazah Allahyarham disembahyangkan di Masjid Jamek Rasah dan selamat dikebumikan di Makam Haji Said, Sikamat kira-kira jam 4 petang. 

Abil mendirikan rumah tangga dengan Fauziah pada 13 Mac 2009, namun selepas dua tahun merasai nikmat alam rumah tangga, isterinya mendapat serangan asma pada 22 Jun 2011 dan sejak itu dia disahkan lumpuh selain saraf otaknya tidak lagi berfungsi. 

Abil yang bekerja sebagai perunding kewangan kemudian mengambil keputusan berhenti kerja kerana nekad mahu menjaga isterinya sepenuh masa sebaik mungkin. 

Penderitaan dan ketabahan Abil menjaga isterinya mendapat perhatian umum yang bersimpati selain kagum dengan sikapnya. "Moga di sana nanti Gee lebih damai. Moga di sana nanti Gee lebih bahagia. Moga di sana ALLAH menempatkannya bersama para syuhada. Dan moga ALLAH mempertemukan Gee dan Abil di syurga abadi."

Friday, January 25, 2013

Of A Maid & An Asthma Attack

My maid Aton who has been taking care of my Haziq and my Husna will be leaving soon. We’ve extended her visa for another month so that Aton could teach the new maid for at least a month before she leaves us for good.

However, the new maid somehow arrived 2 weeks late, which was last Tuesday. She was 25, married with one kid. Nani came from a very poor family – money was the reason why she came to work here. 4D3N on a ship from Tanjung Priok to Tanjung Pinang. 3 hours on a boat from Tanjung Pinang to JB. And another 4-5 hours on a bus from JB to Shah Alam, where we picked her up on Tuesday. She arrived looking tired, but happy to start working.

On Wednesday when we arrived home from work, we saw that she looked kinda weird. I asked Aton and Tina (my other maid who comes from a rich family – my subject in my upcoming post..hehe) what was wrong with her. They said they didn’t know, but Aton said Nani was ok in my Haziq & my Husna’s school that day. In fact the teacher texted me earlier that Nani was eager to learn new things and given time, she’d be a better helper than Aton.

Dear Hubby asked her to sit on the carpet in the living room. She obviously had difficulties in breathing and she was gasping for air. I asked her whether she was ok, she managed to say “asma”. Suddenly her body then came to a curve, it was like she was hunching over. Since I’ve never seen an asthma attack before, I didn’t know that those were danger signs. Dear Hubby quickly said that he’d bring her to the nearby clinic to find out what was wrong with her. Tina helped her to the car, with great effort since by this time, Nani already had trouble walking.

She was lucky to be brought to the clinic juz in the nick of time. “Or it might be fatal”, the doc said. Doc also told Dear Hubby that Nani was a liability to keep since she has acute asthma, gastritis and Tick Typhus (ohmy ..I have no idea what this is). Apparently Nani accidentally left her medications in Tanjung Pinang and by the time she realized, she was already on her way to JB.

As much as I wanted to give her a chance to work with me, I had to think about my Haziq and my Husna. Since my Haziq himself is on Epilim 200, and taking care of both my special ones requires swimming twice a week, air-conditioned rooms with carpets etc etc (and she said she couldn’t sleep in air-conditioned room), I juz have to let her go.

Lucky that she was on JP Visa (usually to apply for a working visa within a month), so she was sent back to the agent in Kluang yesterday. She cried while salam-ing me. Somehow I wonder how in the world did she pass her medical tests prior to coming here?

But whatever it is, I believe it was a blessing in disguise. Allah loves us more. Perhaps there will be unfortunate incidents if she were to work with us. Only Allah knows. And Allah knows best.

Now I’m playing the waiting-for-the-maid game again.
Hopefully this time I'll win :)

 

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Hi There :)

Procrastinator has been my friend since my last post a year ago. Too many times I reminded myself not to abandon this page of mine but somehow I didn’t have the passion to write my thoughts here anymore.

Too many things had happened. Too many memories – happy and sad ones - were engraved in our timeline. All too precious to be forgotten and ignored. Although most of the memories were captured in still photos, I juz can’t brush aside this feeling of regret – “If only I had captured them in words as well...”

And that’s the reason why I’m writing today – the regret of not preserving those memories here in my humble blog.

My kids have grown. My special ones – My Haziq and Husna – will be 20 and 19 respectively. They still go to the same special school near our house.

My Hanna got 7A 1B (B for agama..ouch!) for her PMR, Alhamdulillah, she'll still be in the MRSM system. Now she’s anxiously waiting for the news of which MRSM she’ll further her studies - the nearer the better (for her parents lah..hehe)

My Hasya’s in Form 2 this year. She grew so much in height last year that she’s now a few inches shorter than Dear Hubby. In other words, she’s definitely in the TALL department and obviously taller than her own Ibu!

My Haifa’s now in Standard 5. She shed a few kilos and gained a few cms in height last year. She’s basically my height right now…err…or a few mms taller than me. Maybe if I shed 17 kilos then I’d look much taller than her, huh?

My youngest one..my Standard 2 petite Hanis is as princess-like as ever. Loves everything feminine - as always - such as ballet and piano. A very manja girl :)

Dear Hubby doesn’t bring home his office work that much anymore. Thus more time spent with the children...hehe He’s not playing squash anymore (to avoid injuries) but he still goes swimming on Saturday and Sunday to keep fit.

Me? I’m still here. Still a busy mom and wife. I’m still missing my mom. Every single day. But life has to go on. Alhamdulillah, my life is perfect with its imperfections. I don’t do gardening that much, don’t read that much, don’t cook that much.

I'm basically enjoying life as it is :)

And I wonder why time flies so fast!